When I was a child growing up, I always thought something was wrong with me. I was teased, tormented by peers and even family members. They told me that I was too dark, too fat, not enough of this, that I have “nappy hair” and my eye color was too dark. On top of that, it didn't help to watch TV and never see a positive image reflected back at me. So, unfortunately, those negative seeds grew into self-hate and low self-esteem. Thank God I’ve matured and I’ve come to the realization that we’ve been taught to prefer a particular look over another, one skin color over the other. We’ve been taught what’s pretty and what’s ugly, what’s good hair, and what’s not. I believe that it's time to unlearn what we’ve been taught. It’s time to uproot the seeds of negativity and self-hate that have been planted into the soil of our minds.
You must ask yourself if you’re courageous enough, to honestly deal with the answer...Who wrote the so-called standard of beauty and sold it to the masses? I’ll let you meditate on that. It’s time to stop purchasing the lies. The price is too high, and it never goes on sale. Let’s see how much it’s costing you. It’s sorta like the restaurant menu that shows you the entree name and description without the price. Ok, back on course now. So let’s add up the costs self-esteem, confidence, self-worth, belief… It’s starting to get so high that you can’t put a number on it.
As a woman of color, I’ve come to learn that it’s all beautiful, every shade, every hair texture. So, If you’re reading this stop and re-evaluate the beliefs that you hold about yourself and others. If you’re courageous enough to do so dig deep, and find out how deep the seed goes, from which your beliefs sprouted. Maybe it’s high-time to celebrate your skin color, your hair texture, your history, and heritage that’s been omitted out of history books. So you have to dig deep for Historic truth and accuracy. You have to “Know thyself.” Those words were originally spoken by Pharaohs, and inscribed on the temples of Black Ancient Egypt. Know that you are a gift, to say the least. Be well lovely.
Founder of Lovely Coils